The R U Ok? thread

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RWB, I've only just read your post. I hope you are feeling in better spirits today. I know what you mean about feeling like you're in quicksand at times. Sometimes you get over a hurdle and you start feeling relief and pride in yourself for getting through it and then, before you have a chance to get some respite, along comes another obstacle for you to get through. It would be nice if the periods of respite would last longer! Hope you are feeling better today?

I'm so much better thanks MR and you are very kind to ask. I really think that story I read online about the teenager setting fire to another really haunted me more than I realised. I should stick to reading Martha Stewart's website of home decorating and flower arranging in my lunchbreak from now on! We all get days when we panic or fret over something that may have happened in the past and it rears its ugly head. At least I only have the odd bad day here and there. There are many souls are locked in darkness, sometimes for years on end, and they are the ones I truly feel for. On a bright note, a friend from the Chook pen (the real one, not this one ) follows the New England Patriots so I am very happy his team won the Superbowl, even though they beat the Seattle Seahawks from Frasier..

[milanja]

Nice thread, and good for people to have a different type of avenue to express there frustrations and situations, some people may find it hard to seek professional help or do not want to burden their families if it is an issue on a lesser extreme.

There are many good people on here and even for someone reading these posts, it may be enough for them to know that they are not alone with their problems, and may actually make them feel a little better.

I have never suffered depression, and i was only 12 when my father died and 18 when i lost my mum. Sometimes life just has to move on, knowing you cant change a situation such as a death, may have made it easier for me due to the fact that i could not do a thing about it.

Life rolls on, but never let others tell you when it should start rolling again, the push comes from yourself.

[redwhiteblue]

Nice thread, and good for people to have a different type of avenue to express there frustrations and situations, some people may find it hard to seek professional help or do not want to burden their families if it is an issue on a lesser extreme.

There are many good people on here and even for someone reading these posts, it may be enough for them to know that they are not alone with their problems, and may actually make them feel a little better.

I have never suffered depression, and i was only 12 when my father died and 18 when i lost my mum. Sometimes life just has to move on, knowing you cant change a situation such as a death, may have made it easier for me due to the fact that i could not do a thing about it.

Life rolls on, but never let others tell you when it should start rolling again, the push comes from yourself.

I'm sorry you lost your parents at such a young age milanja but it's a testimony to yourself that you have turned out to be the person you are. It's very hard when they are not there for us for important milestones like graduation, starting a business, getting married or having children. I agree with what you say about others telling you when to move on or get over it..the worst thing you can ever say to someone by the way..I have an uncle who always tells me to run my own race and I have always heeded him.

My mum would have been 90 on this coming Sunday and I will still buy flowers and eat cheesecake on her birthday. Plus Freddy and Ricko have birthdays tomorrow too.

There was a funny man waving a "Peace and Smiles" sign at Edgecliff today. It was such a lovely random thing to do in the middle of the traffic snarls.

[Parkway_Drive]

Nice thread, and good for people to have a different type of avenue to express there frustrations and situations, some people may find it hard to seek professional help or do not want to burden their families if it is an issue on a lesser extreme.

There are many good people on here and even for someone reading these posts, it may be enough for them to know that they are not alone with their problems, and may actually make them feel a little better.

I have never suffered depression, and i was only 12 when my father died and 18 when i lost my mum. Sometimes life just has to move on, knowing you cant change a situation such as a death, may have made it easier for me due to the fact that i could not do a thing about it.

Life rolls on, but never let others tell you when it should start rolling again, the push comes from yourself.

Well said brother and I echo RWB's comments.

Exes decision still on my mind. Her best friends are unable to contact her....Just hope she is ok and if her eldest A....y is still coming on the forum and is reading this call me pls so I know everything is ok.

On an unrelated note...'never underestimate the power of a random act of kindness.'

[milanja]

I'm sorry you lost your parents at such a young age milanja but it's a testimony to yourself that you have turned out to be the person you are. It's very hard when they are not there for us for important milestones like graduation, starting a business, getting married or having children. I agree with what you say about others telling you when to move on or get over it..the worst thing you can ever say to someone by the way..I have an uncle who always tells me to run my own race and I have always heeded him.

My mum would have been 90 on this coming Sunday and I will still buy flowers and eat cheesecake on her birthday. Plus Freddy and Ricko have birthdays tomorrow too.

There was a funny man waving a "Peace and Smiles" sign at Edgecliff today. It was such a lovely random thing to do in the middle of the traffic snarls.

Thanks RWB, funny thing is, the time i really missed them was when the rest of my mates would talk about how they got blasted from their parents for coming home at 6am after a night out, or getting a speeding fine from the police in their car, where that never happened to me.

A mate of mine who still has both parents, always said if you pretend that your old man is sitting on your shoulder when you have a questionable decision you will rarely go astray.

Coming from a croatian background, the fear of coming home after you have done something wrong and having to go and pick a branch from the apple tree, which was going to be your whipping stick on the back of your legs was also a good deterrent

[milanja]

Well said brother and I echo RWB's comments.

Exes decision still on my mind. Her best friends are unable to contact her....Just hope she is ok and if her eldest A....y is still coming on the forum and is reading this call me pls so I know everything is ok.

On an unrelated note...'never underestimate the power of a random act of kindness.'

Thats where things like the footy being back soon is a bonus, because it gives you a few hours a week where you can forget normal life for a while. (As frustrating as the chooks can be to watch some times)

Hope all is well soon mate.

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Thanks RWB, funny thing is, the time i really missed them was when the rest of my mates would talk about how they got blasted from their parents for coming home at 6am after a night out, or getting a speeding fine from the police in their car, where that never happened to me.

A mate of mine who still has both parents, always said if you pretend that your old man is sitting on your shoulder when you have a questionable decision you will rarely go astray.

Coming from a croatian background, the fear of coming home after you have done something wrong and having to go and pick a branch from the apple tree, which was going to be your whipping stick on the back of your legs was also a good deterrent

I like the sound of this mate of yours. I try to still live my life the way my parents raised me - to mind my manners, help those less fortunate and try not to do or say anything that would make them ashamed. I know they are watching me all the time anyway, especially my Mum..

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Eddie often apologises too and no-one should ever feel they have to say sorry for anything they say in this thread.

Sorry about that.

Lol

But , perhaps when I feel up to it, I will open up and write about how the "guilt cycle" works, and how professional advice can be inconsistent.

But I worry that I'd be attention seeking, and might give the indication that my challenges are tougher than others who may have been through worse.

It's a recent thing that the average male from my generation accepts that perhaps some do care.

I dunno, I'm prob feeling paranoid atm.

That's about 9.30 pm on the guilt cycle clock.

years ago, nothing mattered , and we we're all bullet proof.
Now you count summers while treading water.
Hate this stage

[Parkway_Drive]

Thats where things like the footy being back soon is a bonus, because it gives you a few hours a week where you can forget normal life for a while. (As frustrating as the chooks can be to watch some times)

Hope all is well soon mate.

Mixed day mate....with 2 exes, my first one being a psycho with me today and baggage life is never dull unfortunately lol.

Footy is great, takes mind away from REAL problems as sh#t as the game is these days. Re how shit league is these days I'd support the Roosters in a tug o war against a Russian Tank. Nowadays most other league games don't interest me.

years ago, nothing mattered , and we we're all bullet proof.
Now you count summers while treading water.
Hate this stage

Fcuk I feel that man Fcuk!

Yeh the guilt cycle...a sh#t of a thing!

Sorry but I feel fcuked but tomorrow is a new day.

[Guest]

Re how shit league is these days I'd support the Roosters in a tug o war against a Russian Tank. Nowadays most other league games don't interest me.
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That's a cool line, first time I've smiled in a few weeks.

[Parkway_Drive]

That's a cool line, first time I've smiled in a few weeks.

Hahaha just read it again now, one of my best lol!

Good to hear ya got a smile on ya dial mate, even for a moment.

[redwhiteblue]

I read something inspirational today about the healing power of animals for those who have been traumatised or depressed. There was a terrible shooting in 2012 at the Sandy Hook Elementary School in Connecticut and 20 students were killed. Over 50 healing dogs were brought in a while later as companions to the surviving students to make them less afraid and to bring them some comfort. For one little girl in particular, her parents said it was the only time they saw her laugh and smile, when she was in the presence of her favourite dog. It even made National Geographic. There must be a place in heaven for the person who came up with the idea of helping those children.

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Hope all are well and ready for the footy.

[mightyrooster]

Hope all are well and ready for the footy.

Well life just rolls along here with the usual day to day struggles. My boy is settling in well at high school and I am very proud of how well he is adjusting to it all. It is a big change for all kids but for him it's that little bit harder with his issues. So far so good.

I hope everyone else is well and hanging in there. I can't believe the footy season is almost upon us. Go EASTS!

[mightyrooster]

I read something inspirational today about the healing power of animals for those who have been traumatised or depressed. There was a terrible shooting in 2012 at the Sandy Hook Elementary School in Connecticut and 20 students were killed. Over 50 healing dogs were brought in a while later as companions to the surviving students to make them less afraid and to bring them some comfort. For one little girl in particular, her parents said it was the only time they saw her laugh and smile, when she was in the presence of her favourite dog. It even made National Geographic. There must be a place in heaven for the person who came up with the idea of helping those children.

We bought a beasutiful litttle puppy almost 2 years ago. The kids adore him. Me too!! It is so true what you say RWB. He brings such joy and comfort to our family. And he is so loyal, loving and protective of us all.