The R U Ok? thread

[Rooster1908]

I would just like to comment on how unwelcome some members have made me feel this past week or so. It’s sad to see that even in this day and age, at my later stage in life, bullying and harassment is still possible. On the other hand some other members have been very kind and caring. I have genuinely wrestled with the idea of whether to quit this forum over this time but my love of the Roosters and seeing the team continue it’s charge into the finals has kept me here.

Fortunately I have built up a great deal of resilience over the years. Early September is a tough time of the year for me personally as it will be 3 years since I lost my Dad, only a week after Father’s Day. Also, having just gone through the anniversary of Mum’s passing in August.

Take care everyone. Stay strong and try to remember the things which are most important in life.

Thats not good MR I also have struggled on here because of a member and left but came back . Its hard but worth it. Hope you choose to stay.
I actually lost my mum 3rd September last year so 3rd will be remembrance . 4th Fathers day and 5th my 60th bday so not sure how the week will pan out .Hard one for my daughters in particular as they were extremely close to there gran

[rented tracksuit]

I would just like to comment on how unwelcome some members have made me feel this past week or so. It’s sad to see that even in this day and age, at my later stage in life, bullying and harassment is still possible. On the other hand some other members have been very kind and caring. I have genuinely wrestled with the idea of whether to quit this forum over this time but my love of the Roosters and seeing the team continue it’s charge into the finals has kept me here.

Fortunately I have built up a great deal of resilience over the years. Early September is a tough time of the year for me personally as it will be 3 years since I lost my Dad, only a week after Father’s Day. Also, having just gone through the anniversary of Mum’s passing in August.

Take care everyone. Stay strong and try to remember the things which are most important in life.

Sorry to hear about your dad. As you know, I understand what it’s like to lose a family member and especially your father.

Its great to hear you have built up strength and resilience and are better than running away from this place.

Running just lets them win. Don’t let that happen.

[rented tracksuit]

Thats not good MR I also have struggled on here because of a member and left but came back . Its hard but worth it. Hope you choose to stay.
I actually lost my mum 3rd September last year so 3rd will be remembrance . 4th Fathers day and 5th my 60th bday so not sure how the week will pan out .Hard one for my daughters in particular as they were extremely close to there gran

Sorry for your losses also mate and glad you have stayed on board. I always enjoy your posts and input.

[eddie]

Yeah doing ok thanks for asking. Been a little quieter over the last week and have been reflecting on how lucky. I am to have what I have in life.

You've gotta defeat the hooded claw.

[Andrew Walker]

You've gotta defeat the hooded claw.

It hasn’t got me this time around mate.

[eddie]

It hasn’t got me this time around mate.

I was attacked on the weekend, but we battle on don't we?

[mightyrooster]

Thats not good MR I also have struggled on here because of a member and left but came back . Its hard but worth it. Hope you choose to stay.
I actually lost my mum 3rd September last year so 3rd will be remembrance . 4th Fathers day and 5th my 60th bday so not sure how the week will pan out .Hard one for my daughters in particular as they were extremely close to there gran

Hi 08, it’s weird how those things seem to work out like that isn’t it? My Dad passed away a few days before one of my brother’s birthdays and a week after fathers’s day. My Mum passed away the day before my other brother’s birthday. I also, lost a baby a few days before Mother’s Day and a week or so before my birthday. It’s just crazy. The 3rd September will be hard for you being the first anniversary. Not that it’s any easier on the 2nd. We will never forget them and there’s always something which reminds you of them at any time of any day.

I think one thing about it all is it starts you thinking about death and questioning your own mortality. I know I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about that the past 3 years. Sorry I know it sounds so depressing and morbid. But just thinking about how old I am. Age never used to bother me until then. You say you’re about to turn 60. See that scares me, it doesn’t seem that far off for me and I don’t want to think about it lol.

Take care 08, have a quiet day remembering your Mum on her anniversary then have a great Father’s Day, being spoiled by your daughters. Then you can have another great day on your 60th. Hopefully the Roosters beat the vermin in Friday as well.

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Hi 08, it’s weird how those things seem to work out like that isn’t it? My Dad passed away a few days before one of my brother’s birthdays and a week after fathers’s day. My Mum passed away the day before my other brother’s birthday. I also, lost a baby a few days before Mother’s Day and a week or so before my birthday. It’s just crazy. The 3rd September will be hard for you being the first anniversary. Not that it’s any easier on the 2nd. We will never forget them and there’s always something which reminds you of them at any time of any day.

I think one thing about it all is it starts you thinking about death and questioning your own mortality. I know I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about that the past 3 years. Sorry I know it sounds so depressing and morbid. But just thinking about how old I am. Age never used to bother me until then. You say you’re about to turn 60. See that scares me, it doesn’t seem that far off for me and I don’t want to think about it lol.

Take care 08, have a quiet day remembering your Mum on her anniversary then have a great Father’s Day, being spoiled by your daughters. Then you can have another great day on your 60th. Hopefully the Roosters beat the vermin in Friday as well.

Great post.

Keep your chin up MR.

[mightyrooster]

Sorry to hear about your dad. As you know, I understand what it’s like to lose a family member and especially your father.

Its great to hear you have built up strength and resilience and are better than running away from this place.

Running just lets them win. Don’t let that happen.

Sorry to hear about your loss too RT. It’s just a sign of getting older isn’t it?

[rented tracksuit]

Sorry to hear about your loss too RT. It’s just a sign of getting older isn’t it?

Yep MR.

Circle of life. Our oldies and passing on and it’s our turn next.

As you know, I have a pretty thick skin and a hard exterior but one of the only things that really upsets me is parents having to bury their kids. It’s not meant to be that way. It’s meant to be the other way around which I have no problem at all with. That’s just life but kids going too early is just heartbreaking.

[mightyrooster]

Yep MR.

Circle of life. Our oldies and passing on and it’s our turn next.

As you know, I have a pretty thick skin and a hard exterior but one of the only things that really upsets me is parents having to bury their kids. It’s not meant to be that way. It’s meant to be the other way around which I have no problem at all with. That’s just life but kids going too early is just heartbreaking.

Sadly, I've been there and done that. She was a twin. Talking about it helps but I find people don't really know what to say to you.

[Rooster1908]

Hi 08, it’s weird how those things seem to work out like that isn’t it? My Dad passed away a few days before one of my brother’s birthdays and a week after fathers’s day. My Mum passed away the day before my other brother’s birthday. I also, lost a baby a few days before Mother’s Day and a week or so before my birthday. It’s just crazy. The 3rd September will be hard for you being the first anniversary. Not that it’s any easier on the 2nd. We will never forget them and there’s always something which reminds you of them at any time of any day.

I think one thing about it all is it starts you thinking about death and questioning your own mortality. I know I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about that the past 3 years. Sorry I know it sounds so depressing and morbid. But just thinking about how old I am. Age never used to bother me until then. You say you’re about to turn 60. See that scares me, it doesn’t seem that far off for me and I don’t want to think about it lol.

Take care 08, have a quiet day remembering your Mum on her anniversary then have a great Father’s Day, being spoiled by your daughters. Then you can have another great day on your 60th. Hopefully the Roosters beat the vermin in Friday as well.

Thanks MR and so sad about loosing a child let alone a love one .Words truly can't help but thoughts with you. On the age thing I remember when my old man turned 50 , I chucked a party for him and remember thinking dam dad you are bloody old and now I'm 10 years passed that .He died at 63 so he's been gone 25 years .Still miss the old bugger

[mightyrooster]

Thanks MR and so sad about loosing a child let alone a love one .Words truly can't help but thoughts with you. On the age thing I remember when my old man turned 50 , I chucked a party for him and remember thinking dam dad you are bloody old and now I'm 10 years passed that .He died at 63 so he's been gone 25 years .Still miss the old bugger

Thanks 08, it was 18 years ago now but of course I never stop thinking of her and we still have her twin sister with us. You’re so right with the age thing. I actually remember both Mum and Dad’s 60ths quite well and I can’t believe that will be me in 4 years time! That’s also way too young at 63 for your Dad.

[rented tracksuit]

Sadly, I've been there and done that. She was a twin. Talking about it helps but I find people don't really know what to say to you.

Oh shit! That’s awful news and I had no idea you had been through that.

Talking does help but many people don’t know how to open up about it and when they do, those listening don’t know how to reply. Offering advice to someone who has lost a hold is really hard and probably shouldn’t be done as it’s very much an individual thing which is best dealt with through the grieving process of the parent.

I have a sister in law who lost her son aged 3 last year and all we can do is be there in a supportive manner for her and understand that she will probably never get over it and try to ‘make things better’ for her. She will deal with it in her own way.

[mightyrooster]

Oh shit! That’s awful news and I had no idea you had been through that.

Talking does help but many people don’t know how to open up about it and when they do, those listening don’t know how to reply. Offering advice to someone who has lost a hold is really hard and probably shouldn’t be done as it’s very much an individual thing which is best dealt with through the grieving process of the parent.

I have a sister in law who lost her son aged 3 last year and all we can do is be there in a supportive manner for her and understand that she will probably never get over it and try to ‘make things better’ for her. She will deal with it in her own way.

Yep that’s what I mean. And yes the best you can do is be there for her, listen if she wants to talk about it and acknowledge her loss. It’s a pretty crap situation all round really. No words can really describe it.